Photo: Hugh Forte via Bespoke Only
So, you’re engaged. This means that congratulations are in order (let us be the first: congrats!!!) and that it’s time to start thinking about how you want to share and celebrate the news with your community via your engagement party. While we don’t want to interrupt your post-proposal bliss, we do want to help you set the tone for your journey to the altar. Your engagement party is the perfect opportunity to start putting the groundwork in place for the kind of engagement and wedding planning experience that you want. If you’re like us, we’re guessing you’re opting for an all-round experience that’s heavy on beauty and meaning, but light on drama and chaos.
The wedding industry can be a bit of a jungle to navigate, but there are definitely ways to find your way through while having fun in the process. To help you kick things off on the right note, we’ve teamed up with some of the best wedding planners in the biz to gather advice, insights and best practices for throwing your engagement party.
"Simply treat it as an opportunity to share your happiness with everyone who you believe would be happy about the news."
Melissa Lee, Creative Director of Bespoke Only, likes to set the tone by reminding couples that the point of the engagement party is, “to share the happy news and celebrate without worrying too much about the cost and other nitty-gritty details.” This is the opportune time to be inclusive with your community at large, before you get into the real deal of your Big Day. After all, says Lee, “the engagement party should feel so free and easy! Invite anybody in town that you both like and care about. An engagement party has less etiquette attached; less financial and family obligations - do what pleases you and simply treat it as an opportunity to share your happiness with everyone who you believe would be happy about the news.” .”
When it comes to sorting out the guest list and pondering the number of engagement party invitations that should go out, Ashley Smith from BuzzWorthy Events has some helpful advice. “25-50 guests is perfect for an engagement party, but not more than 100 guests. This event is usually reserved for very close friends and family.” Because the topic of invitations and guest lists can easily becomes sensitive Smith says that the key to avoiding any confusion or hurt is to, “be clear with the person throwing the event for you and check out the guest list.”